Student behavior is always an explosive conversation with teachers and parents. Each of these respective groups has fixed opinions on this issue. Educators believe that parents need to do a better job teaching students how to respect adults in a school setting. While parents believe that teachers need to convey a more positive demeanor towards all school-age youth.
Each tends to blame the other for their students’ behavior problems. This cycle of blame has been going on for years. However, we are no closer in solving behavior problems in most schools.
Researchers believe that student misbehavior is a learned trait. Children see how adults respond to a variety of situations —so they in turn can react in a similar way when they encounter an identical scenario.
If a parent has an adversary relationship with his or her child’s school community, it is most likely his or her child will also have a similar relationship. It’s plausible that these kids have learned from their family members that it is acceptable to challenge school staff. To them ‘talking back’ and being ‘confrontational’ is how an individual communicates with educators.
And, vice versa, if a teacher communicates with his or her students by yelling or using mean-spirited language, these kids learn that it’s okay to interact with school adults in this matter. This again reinforces that this conduct is a normal. As these children get older, they start to emulate this negative behavior. And, the cycle continues.
So, who is accountable for a student’s behavior?
It’s all of us that parent, teach, and work with children. They are watching our interactions. Are we modeling the behavior that they should be learning?